I’m sick and tired of how men view women at bars. Just because I’m young, attractive, and wearing a sexy outfit DOES NOT MEAN that I came to the bar expecting to be picked up, fucked, or treated like an unintelligent slut. Just because I’m showing cleavage or another body part of mine, again, DOES NOT MEAN that I’m ‘inviting’ you to be rude and derogatory towards me. It doesn’t mean that I’m trying to attract negative attention from you and your buddies. And it certainly, above all, doesn’t mean that if something bad happens to me, I “should have seen it coming” or “was asking for it”!

You don’t have the right to touch my body without my consent. How many times do I have to fucking tell you that? There’s a reason I don’t go to bars very often. It’s because I can’t walk through a crowd without someone grabbing my ass or touching me, and I don’t handle that well. In fact, I tend to turn around, tell them that they’re sexually assaulting me, and they don’t take it very well. Things usually end poorly. What the FUCK gives someone the right to touch my body? NOTHING. NOTHING GIVES ANYONE THE RIGHT TO TOUCH MY BODY. It’s MY body!

Why can’t I go to the bar looking all cute and sexy with my attractive female friends and dance without stuff like that happening to me? It makes me incredibly angry. I have the fucking right to dress however I damn well please without negative side effects! It doesn’t matter WHO I’m dressing like that for, or WHY I’m dressing like that – it’s my choice!

I think Fergi said it best; “You can look but you can’t touch it if you touch it I’m a start some drama, you don’t want no drama! So don’t pull on my hand boy, you’re not my man boy, I’m just trying to dance boy, and move my hump!”

3 Responses to “It’s MY body”

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  1. I definitely agree with you. We should be able to go out feeling sexy and not feel like we’re going to be inappropriately groped and man-handled. Really? It’s definitely not an invitation. I’ve been feeling lately like there are so many ‘invitations’ men pick up on that are just NOT. Just because I’m on Fetlife does not mean I’m trying to pick up a new partner. Just because I’m kinky does not mean I’m poly. Ugh.
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    • I agree. Every suggestion I make on Fetlife turns into a play party. Sorry but I’m picky about who I play with and who I want to see naked!

      I do think there is a difference between dressing sexy and dressing (and acting) like a hooker and then being offended by a guy hitting on you. It’s like wearing a low cut shirt and being offended if a guy stares, it’s silly. Though because you wear a low cut shirt doesn’t give him the right to do more than oogle and look.

      • Thanks for comments, girls!

        It’s a real shame that women cant go places, whether it be a bar or a social website and not feel like they are being mistreated, or that they are dirty sluts.

        I mean, I dress sexy to feel and look sexy (obviously). And if guys (or girls) wanna oogle me up, then go right ahead. Be my guest, I expect that much! But it doesn’t mean they have the right put their filthy paws on my body.

        And I hate, hate, hate it when people use the expression “well dressed like that she should’ve seen it coming”!

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